A
trusting relationship
 | Using good listening skills |
| Empathetic acceptance |
| Congruence between body language and verbal language |
Clearly
defined roles and expectations
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Desire
to promote the teacher's autonomy and uniqueness |
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Nonjudgmental
conversation |
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Honesty |
Linguistic
Skills
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Paraphrasing
communicates that the listener has...
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HEARD
what the speaker said, |
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UNDERSTOOD
what was said, and |
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CARES |
Paraphrasing
involves either:
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RESTATING
in your own words, or |
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SUMMARIZING |
Some
possible paraphrasing stems include the following:
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So,... |
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In other
words,... |
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What I'm
hearing then... |
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What I
hear you saying... |
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From
what I hear you say... |
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I'm
hearing many things... |
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As I
listen to you I'm hearing... |
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Clarifying
communicates that the listener has...
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HEARD
what the speaker said, but does NOT fully
UNDERSTAND what was said |
Clarifying
involves ASKING A QUESTION (direct
or implied) to
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Gather
more information |
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Discover
the meaning of the language used |
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Get
clarity about the speaker's reasoning |
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Seek
connections between ideas |
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Develop
or maintain a focus |
Some
possible clarifying stems include the following:
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Would
you tell me a little more about...? |
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Let me
see if I understand... |
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It would
help me understand if you'd give me an example of... |
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So, are
you saying/suggesting...? |
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Tell me
what you mean when you... |
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Tell me
how that idea is like (different from)... |
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To what
extent...? |
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I'm
curious to know more about... |
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I'm
intrigued by... / I'm interested in... / I wonder... |
Note:
"Why...?" tends to elicit a defensive response.
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Mediational
questions help the colleague
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HYPOTHESIZE
what might happen |
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ANALYZE
what worked or didn't |
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IMAGINE
possibilities |
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COMPARE
& CONTRAST what was
planned with what ensued |
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EXTRAPOLATE
from one situation to another |
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EVALUATE
the impact |
Some
mediational question stems include ...
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What's
another way you might...? |
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What
would it look like if...? |
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What do
you think would happen if ...? |
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How
was... different from (like) ...? |
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What's
another way you might...? |
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What
sort of an impact do you think...? |
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What
criteria do you use to...? |
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When
have you done something like... before? |
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What do
you think...? |
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How did
you decide ... (come to that conclusion)? |
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What
might you see happening in your classroom if...? |
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